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|Sun Jul 7 2019 11:46AM | MsgID: 19793879|
Amici Sumus We are friends. Amici Sumus is not a safeguard excuse for failing to follow the rules nor should it outweigh the rules, rather it is a philosophy. One way to view it is to ask how you would handle a situation if it occurred in an important tournament game against your best friend. You would play hard but within both the letter and the spirit of the rules, neither asking for nor giving quarter. However, if there was a disagreement, you would assume that he is telling the truth, not automatically assume that he is lying and cheating. I started to think of behaviour which, according to the philosophy, definitely would not be friendly. It isn't difficult for an active player to do this-this is because, once and a while, you come into contact with opponents, and others, who are definitely not friendly. With Amici Sumus, a couple of assumptions must be made when dealing with it. Probably the first assumption should be that everyone has worth, has value. How can you deal with someone on a friendly basis otherwise? Respect is a factor - just as one wishes to be respected, he should respect in return. Even in disagreement, you have to be open to another's point of view. There is also the vexing question of, what may be friendly, or Amici Sumus, to me may definitely not be friendly, or Amici Sumus to you. A balanced person recognizes this and does not force his personal opinions on others (this by itself being anti-Amici Sumus). Examples of unfriendly behaviour abound in international correspondence chess. Playing on in a totally lost position (hence the term Dead Man Defense - because your only hope is that your opponent will die before the game is over), not replying in a timely manner, because you are busy (or whatever) but not bothering to let your opponent know this, etc. The possible list of bad behaviour is a long one, perhaps only limited by a person's efforts to make it as difficult as possible for his opponent, away from the chessboard. There should be consequences for questionable behaviour.
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|Sun Oct 28 2018 4:37PM | MsgID: 19788736|
This has come up a few times over the years eg see below (hope the link works, may not have done it properly).
Some opponents may indeed deliberately drag out a lost game, but there may be other reasons that they play on other than to annoy you.